I get wanting to look sexy. I do. But isn’t there a line? Does anyone else think there’s a line between sexy and naked?
I fear that too few girls and women these days (yup, Imma throw out a “these days”) know where that line is. Either that or they don’t care. Either that or I’m the one that’s confused, and what looks sexy to me is really the equivalent of wearing a floor-length flannel nightgown, and what looks naked to me is prim and proper evening attire.
“But we’re young!”
So being young exempts you from respecting yourself?
“But we’re young and stupid!”
I’ll give you the stupid part. Wait – you made it into one of Canada’s best universities, so you can’t really be stupid.
“But we’re young and stupid and DRUNK!”
Ah. With alcohol involved, nothing matters. Especially your self-respect.
“Well…. we’re horny. So… You know.”
So you’re willing to look like you don’t respect yourself, put all your goodies on display for guys you don’t know, freeze your toes off wading through snow in your heels and bare legs, spend a lot of money on booze and cabs, feel like crap the next day, not to mention doing exactly what every other girl around you is doing, just for a chance at getting rubbed up against by an equally drunk and stupid stranger?
–is doing it? Sorry, hon, but that is a very old and clichéd line.
There’s something going on here that has to do with gender stereotypes and patriarchal values and the effect of the media, but without delving into much of the academic stuff, I wanna ask about something along the lines of myth and ideology: doesn’t it make you feel dirty, putting yourself on display like that in exchange for something temporary and meaningless? Don’t you know that you’re the one getting the short end of the stick?
I get wanting to feel sexy, wanting to look sexy.
What I don’t get is wanting to wear less clothes than a prostitute while paying for your own booze, then giving it all away to a random guy, for free.
“But we don’t pay for our drinks – the random guys buy them.”
WHY DIDN’T YOU SAY SO?! Clearly nothing else matters.